The Resilient Man

THE RESILIENT MAN
 

|“Where strength meets self-awareness.”

A Place to Land When the Old Maps No Longer Work

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There comes a point—quiet, unceremonious—when the life you’ve been holding together no longer fits.
Not because you failed. But because you outgrew the role you were cast in.

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This is a space for men who are navigating thresholds that don’t have clear names.
Divorced, maybe. A single father. Unpartnered for longer than you expected.
Still showing up. Still working, still parenting, still holding it together—
but wondering… what now?

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Maybe it’s been years since you had a space that was just for you.
A space where you don’t have to perform being okay.
A space where silence is allowed.
Where grief is not a problem to fix.
Where rage is understood, not judged.
Where exhaustion can finally exhale.

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This work is for the man who’s done what needed to be done—
and now senses, quietly or urgently, that it’s time to come home to himself.

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You may not know exactly what you need. That’s okay.
We begin where you are.
With the body.
With breath.
With whatever’s still living beneath the armor.

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Not therapy as performance.
Not therapy as self-improvement project.
But a space to remember how to feel your own life again.

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You don’t have to do this alone.
And you were never meant to.

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Who This Is For

 

This work is for men in the quiet middle of their lives—
not beginners, not at the end.
Somewhere in the in-between.
Divorced, or long past it.
Parenting from two households.
Single, or partnered in a way that still feels...lonely.

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It’s for men who have been holding their breath for years.
Men who’ve done the “right” things: career, marriage, fatherhood.
Men who are tired of being the strong one all the time.
Men who long for realness, but have been given few places to practice it.

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You don’t need a diagnosis to be here.
You don’t need to be in crisis.
You just need a quiet readiness. A flicker of willingness.
The sense that something in you wants to be known—not by the world, but by you.

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Whether you’re carrying the ache of missing your kids when the house is too quiet,
navigating the minefield of co-parenting texts,
or feeling the hum of midlife disorientation that no one warned you about—
this space is for you.

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How I Work

 

I bring a body-based, relational, and soul-attuned lens to this work.
Somatic therapy, trauma recovery, depth psychology, ritual, silence, humor, grief—all are welcome here.

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I’ve spent two decades at the intersection of healing and human complexity.
As a somatic therapist, educator, and practitioner, I’ve taught and trained in settings from Esalen to Naropa, worked with seasoned seekers and those new to this path, and sat in the fire of my own becoming.

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This isn’t a top-down, clinical model.
This is therapy rooted in relationship.
We go at the pace of trust.

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I listen for what’s spoken and unspoken.
I attune to your nervous system, the cadence of your breath, the gesture in your hands you don’t realize you’re making.
The body knows what the mind has buried.
And when we make space for it, the body remembers how to heal.

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What Happens in Session

 

You show up.
Exactly as you are.
No need to be articulate. No need to have it figured out.

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Sometimes we talk.
Sometimes we breathe together in the quiet.
Sometimes we name what’s never been named.

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We move slowly. With precision, not pressure.
We notice: when your jaw tightens as you talk about your ex.
We pause: when your chest collapses just before the tears come.
We stay: when your shoulders say “I don’t know how to be close to anyone anymore.”

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This is not just about insight—it’s about integration.
We don’t analyze your story from a distance. We feel the residue of it in real time.
So it can move. So you can move.

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This work is relational, sacred, and sometimes raw.
But it is also dignifying.
And if you’ve spent a lifetime overriding your inner world, that dignity is medicine.

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Some of the Terrain We Might Cross

 

These aren’t “topics” in the usual sense.
They’re invitations.
Doorways.
Each one an opening toward something more honest.

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▸ Divorce as Rite of Passage

 

Not just a rupture—but an initiation. We make space for grief, for anger, for the relief you don’t know how to say out loud.

We hold what was lost and what wants to be reclaimed.

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▸ Co-Parenting Without Self-Abandonment

 

How do you stay attuned to your kids while dealing with the logistical and emotional minefield of sharing parenting with someone you used to love—and may still carry pain toward? You don’t have to navigate that complexity alone.

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▸ Emotional Presence as Strength

 

You were never taught how to feel. You were taught how to fix, provide, protect.

But now those tools don’t work for what you’re facing.

We build new ones.

Ones that let you feel without flooding.

Ones that let you speak without armoring up.

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▸ Midlife Meaning

 

You’re not broken.

You’re not too late.

This is not a crisis.

This is a threshold.

And something in you already knows how to walk through it.

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▸ Grief, Longing, and Unlived Life

 

Grief is not a pathology. It is the residue of care.

Longing is not weakness—it’s vitality trying to return.

We learn to stay close to the parts of you that were never given room to breathe.

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Why This Work Matters

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Because you were taught that your value is in your doing—
not your feeling, not your receiving, not your being.

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Because the culture gives men few spaces to be tender without shame.
Few places to tell the truth without being seen as weak.
Few invitations to pause.

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Because I’ve sat with men at the edge of breakdown—
and I’ve witnessed what happens when they’re finally met, not managed.

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Because fatherhood is sacred, and often unsupported.
Because masculinity doesn’t have to mean disconnection.
Because what you don’t feel gets passed on.
And because it’s not too late to choose a different way.

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If You’re Not Sure

 

You don’t have to “believe in therapy” to benefit from it.
You don’t have to know what you’re doing here.
You don’t even have to talk much at first.

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You just have to want something more true.
Something that feels like you, even if you’re not sure who that is anymore.

Skepticism is welcome here.
So is exhaustion.
So is guardedness.
We’ll go at your pace.

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You get to lead.
And you don’t have to do it alone.

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Logistics, In Brief

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• Location: Online or in-person sessions in Boulder, Colorado

• Session Length: 45 minutes

• Frequency: Weekly or bi-weekly

• Fees: Sliding scale available for a limited number of clients. Insurance not accepted, but I can provide a superbill for out-of-network reimbursement.

• Consultation: Free 20-minute call to see if this feels like a fit

• You can find out more here.

 

Begin

 

This work isn’t about “fixing” you.
It’s about meeting the parts of you that have been waiting.

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If you’re ready—or even just curious—reach out.

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We’ll begin with a conversation. No pressure. No pitch.
Just two humans, seeing if this is the right place to start again.